11 responses to “Dating advice for women engineers”

  1. Jeremy Cook

    Lol, pretty funny. As I guy though, I think it was good I married a non-engineer to gives things some balance. Maybe it’s the same for females?

  2. nully

    “If he’s an engineer, he’s probably also clueless and anything more subtle will be off his radar.

    Make sure that if you enjoyed the date, you tell him you’d like to see him again. If he’s engineer, it’s probably a good idea to tell him specifically when and where otherwise he may not take the hint”

    Spot on.

  3. bandit, Albuquerque

    I married a Marine. She is a good match, although people who know us separately, then connect the dots, have a common reaction along the line of “How does *that* work?” – so far, over 20 years.

    She is blunt, strong-willed, and straight-forward. She knows subtlety is lost on me. We also tend to have fact-filled arguments, although our interpretation of the facts my be different :^)

    Far before meeting me, she decided that she was going to marry an engineer. Although, it did take about 5 years before she truly understood the ramifications. She will still look at me and state “You are a freak of nature” when I point out something that is usually obvious to an engineer.

    One of my favorite tricks was raising the chicken coop after the (7omph) winds knocked it down. A rope, leverage, and a pickup truck and the thing just zipped up. Piece of cake, but it impressed her. The !@#$% thing got knocked down a week later, but the same trick worked and now the coop is tied down.

    I recommend to guy nerds is to find chemists, because there are a large number of women chemists (the reason is the subject of another rant…). The difference between a chemist and Marine is: if you p*ss off the chemist, they may suspect murder, but cannot prove it. In my case, there would be no doubt…

  4. RoseCotton

    This is good advice – I’m an engineer who married a non-engineer and I can’t figure out why he doesn’t like to use logic to solve problems. He seems to think there’s more to an issue than bluntly stating the facts and enacting a logical solution.

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  6. Al Sledge

    “bandit” and I may be married to the same woman, but maybe not as my wife was not a Marine. My wife also claims that I “am a freak of nature”. Another term is simply “you sure are weird, but lovable”. We are polar opposites in many areas, but still share a lot of commonalities. My first wife had a masters in computer science. A smart girl, but to her, everything was a hardware problem. Great on solving differential equations, but could not balance a checkbook!

    It’s also hard on kids having techie parents. One of my sons complained as we were heading out to dinner one night that “could we talk about something other than compiler designs at dinner tonight!” On road trips I would ask the kids math type mental problems (age/grade appropriate) as we drove down the road. When they got older they complained that the families of their friends discussed sports. I asked “why?” Never got an answer. Yet they all went into “thinking” types of jobs where math skills paid off (econ, physics, math, insurance actuaries, etc). So far (knocking on wood) all six are gainfully employed

    It takes a certain kind of person to live with a techie and it makes little difference if the techie is male or female. Most engineers can fix anything except the crack of dawn or a broken heart. But I’m working on doing both. It is indeed fun living here in Dilbertville. Well worth the trip. Thanks for the dating tips!

    1. bandit

      Spot on, brother! Although … my son is third generation nerd. (He was doomed from the start, although we never pushed him into it). I would take him with me sometimes when I traveled. We would play “spot the nerd”, but it is too easy in the San Jose, CA airport.

      Six kids, eh? We only had one. Her phrase after our son was born was “over your dead body”. I did *not* take this as a figure of speech.

      I loved the “could we talk about something other than compiler designs at dinner tonight!”! How could they not be thrilled by lexical scanners, LALR(1) languages, and peephole optimizations? (Hmmm … teenage boys may interpret that last one differently.) Throw in inter-task FIFO communications and ISRs, and you just cannot get more riveting topics!

      I do like the lists in the blog. I have a colleague who is so shy, he went to nursing school to get his “Mr” degree. Met a great gal, married, put her thru nursing school, then she put him thru engineering school. I learned early on that if he ever said anything, it was important enough to bubble up and I *should* listen carefully.

  7. Sport4star

    I must say… spot on!

    Appears some guys are trying to say that they found themselves married with non-engineering females and trying to say that it’s not necessary for one to look for an engineer. That’s true with most MALE engineers. However, I find that most of FEMALE engineers do end up marrying male engineers. I myself being that same case. Perhaps it’s not true for males since the ratio of female to male engineers are so low. Of the female engineers I know (>20), only one of them didn’t marry a male engineer. Strange, yet true. Many possible reasons for it… but I think it boils down to … engineers are practical, both female and male… so you find someone with similar social status, similar career goals, similar intelligence, similar algorithms on how one does things in life.. (ie. spending cost vs. return), … and more so for the female species (relatively more talkative)… someone who understands our vocabulary… most of the time, this boils down to a male engineer. (should we have exciting news or complaints about work… like.. I can’t believe the network analyzer… there must be a software glitch… the calibration keeps resetting… a male engineer would understand, maybe even brainstorm a solution with you… the rest of the world… eyes begin to roll backwards.)